Lonelier Together: The Silent Agony Behind Closed Doors

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🥀 The Silent Truth About Failing Marriages

Marriage forums can be eye-opening, especially if you’re curious about the real struggles behind closed doors. It’s worth remembering that people in happy marriages rarely post online. Platforms like Reddit or viral TikTok stories often reflect the worst-case scenarios—heartbreaking, raw, and very real.

Sadly, in some marriages, love truly dies. One or both spouses feel emotionally abandoned, making the union feel lonelier than being single. With the pressure to “appear happy” on social media, many couples suffer in silence—performing in a show that hides the pain underneath.

❓ Why Do Marriages Fall Apart?

There are many reasons marriages crumble, but based on countless forum hours, the most common culprits are poor communication and lost intimacy. Resentment is often the beginning of the end. Once the honeymoon phase fades and arguments, blame, or name-calling start, the relationship may spiral into emotional or physical infidelity.

Children can intensify this dynamic if spouses aren’t aligned on parenting, adding to the stress and emotional distance.

🕯️ The Spiritual Side: Unseen Forces at Play

In some cases, spiritual warfare plays a surprising role. There are reports of individuals being targeted by love spells, enchantments, or cursed objects—clothing, food, or gifts. These aren’t always self-inflicted; people often hire others to perform these rituals.

If afflicted, you might feel an unnatural attachment or passion toward someone—only for that to vanish after marriage, revealing a painful truth: the love was never real. Even worse, someone outside the marriage could be sending spiritual interference, drawing your affection elsewhere.

This is why it’s vital that couples pray daily and wear the full armor of God, guarding their union from spiritual attacks.

🙏 Crucial Prayers Before Saying “I Do”

If you’re nearing engagement or marriage, here are essential prayer points to guide your discernment. Always pray with others if possible for added strength.

📖 Matthew 18:20 (NIV)

²⁰ For where two or three gather in my name, there am I with them.”

This is a powerful reminder that when you pray with others in unity, God’s presence is there to guide, protect, and reveal truth. Don’t underestimate the strength of collective prayer—especially when seeking clarity in matters as serious as marriage.

🎭 Pray for Masks to Fall Off

Ask God to reveal the true heart, character, and intentions of your partner—and yourself. Sometimes people unknowingly wear a mask until marriage. When that mask falls, reality hits hard.

❌ Pray to Break False Attachments

Use tools like the Binding Prayer with a trusted believer to break any spiritual binds or enchantments affecting your judgment. If your love remains strong after deliverance prayer, that’s a good sign. But if affection fades—take that seriously.

👁️ Pray for Hidden Truths to Surface

Ask the Lord to expose any secrets or red flags—cheating, hidden apps, financial dishonesty, incurable STDs, addictions, or legal entanglements. For example, if your person is paying for spell work to be done on you using a practitioner or online service, you could end up finding proof of transactions.

📖 Luke 12:3 (NIV)

³ What you have said in the dark will be heard in the daylight, and what you have whispered in the ear in the inner rooms will be proclaimed from the roofs.

Luke 12:3 reminds us that nothing stays hidden forever. Even the deepest secrets, quiet compromises, or deceptive behaviors will eventually come to light—especially when we ask God to expose them. This verse is both a warning and a promise: while people may wear masks or hide things behind smiles and scripted words, God sees all, and in His timing, truth is revealed.

This is why it’s so important to pray for discernment before making a lifelong commitment like marriage. Ask God to shine His light on anything that’s concealed—whether it’s emotional baggage, addictions, spiritual ties, financial entanglements, or anything that could later cause deep pain. What’s whispered in secret will one day be shouted from the rooftops, so it’s far better to seek the truth now—before vows are exchanged—than to live in regret later.

✨ A Prophetic Insight: Rapture, Conflict, and Marital Strife

A female minister I follow, Clare Du Bois, shares that she receives visitations from the Lord—experiences reminiscent of those recorded in the life and diary of Saint Maria Faustina Kowalska. I discovered her ministry after praying earnestly over my life with this powerful promise in mind:

📖 Jeremiah 33:3 (NIV)

³ ‘Call to me and I will answer you and tell you great and unsearchable things you do not know.’

This verse reminds us that God is always ready to reveal His plans—sometimes in ways beyond our understanding—especially concerning life’s most important decisions, like marriage. Trust in His guidance as you seek clarity and peace about your path.

Below are some words claimed to be from Jesus to her in Clare’s message titled: Prophetic Word Rapture & Conflict in Marriage

“Someday, perhaps soon, I want to talk about what Gossip does to a marriage. I want people to know how the enemy uses this to destroy harmony in the home, and increased divorces. It’s rampant, even in My Body. This is one of the fatal flaws of My Bride-to-be. As long as she engages in gossip, her relationships are at risk, and I cannot bless her on her way with a greater anointing or greater work for Me. To know this is to have the weapons to close the door in at least 75% of marital turmoil.”

“Understand, it’s not the issues that cause the turmoil,” He continued. “As much as it is the attitudes and twisted communication lines of the demons that cause the problems. Yes, money is an issue, and couples do have trouble working on how to spend it. But I assure you, they would have far less trouble if they hadn’t opened the door to spirits of Dissention and Jealousy that work works of iniquity in the hearts and minds of spouses. Who also, by the way, twist the meaning of words from the mouth of the one to the ears of the other. So much of this could have been avoided, if only they would refuse to judge others. ‘As you judge, so shall you be judged.’ And you have seen how virulent that could get.”

He continued, “Jealously, bickering backbiting, scorn, contempt, attitudes of non-cooperation – all of this comes from the evil ones. This is why humility is SO important.”

“This is a very hurting world and many on the Internet are there because they’re alienated from their spouses and they’re looking for relationship. Not necessarily with the opposite sex, but some kind of meaningful, non-bickering relationships. Just someone who understands and who they can share with.”

 He continued. “No Rapture yet. At least I don’t see it. Yet, the decision is not in my hands, but in the Father’s. One thing you know well, and that is He is merciful.”

“Well said, My Bride. Yes, there is a chance that you could have been left behind. May I say, many of My Brides are blind to their faults. They are not going deep enough in discerning what displeases Me. Yes, My Spirit is at work in their conscience, but some refuse to get a firm grip on habits that do NOT glorify Me, but work iniquity in the Body. Gossip and judgment are HUGE. Some find it hard to stop. May I say that is impossible to stop without My Grace that comes from intimacy with Me? Without deep intimacy, without you knowing Me, you will not have the courage to stop deeply ingrained, destructive habits in My Body that everyone accepts as the norm. Criticizing, gossiping and backbiting are NOT the norm – they are noxious sins that rise up to Heaven in testimony against a soul. They create breaks in the covering I give My servants, and breaks let the enemy in for a sifting.”

✅ Conclusion

Whether or not you believe this prophetic message is directly from Jesus, the takeaway remains the same: don’t wait until it’s too late to discern real love from false connection.

Marriage—apart from giving your life to Christ—is one of the most important decisions you’ll ever make. Be intentional. Pray fervently. Ask God to expose deception, purify your intentions, and lead you into a union built on truth, faith, and mutual love.

🌿 Final Thoughts

Marriage isn’t just a romantic milestone—it’s a lifelong covenant that impacts your spiritual, emotional, and even generational legacy. Before stepping into that sacred bond, be sure you’re walking in truth, not illusion. Don’t rely solely on emotions, appearances, or social pressure. Instead, seek clarity through prayer, wise counsel, and discernment.

God is faithful to reveal what’s hidden when we sincerely ask. So pray boldly. Love honestly. And never be afraid to walk away from what isn’t real—because what God unites will always withstand the storms. This may be a tough message, but my hope is that these insights help you find true joy and a reason to dance through life.

🎵 Here’s the ending music. 🎵